Monday, July 11, 2011

Amazing Generosity

Twelve days ago I posted a blog about a former co worker of my husbands who passed away in a tragic car accident caused by a semi truck driver that didn't realize he was stopping due to a traffic jam and going 65 mph slammed right into him. The truck driver was driving while impaired, had possession of methadone, possession of marijuana, and possession of drug paraphernalia.My husband told me today that the state of NC has said this is the worst accident in history in this state. Because of this careless person, A husband, a father to three children, a son and many more titles he carried has been taken far to soon.I was instantly touched by this and still tear up daily thinking about the situation. Today I found out that him and his wife had been married for SEVENTEEN years! I just couldnt imagne loosing my best friend. When I wrote the first blog post about the accident I said I was taking donations to help the family with bills,a grocery gift card, and to get the kids something. I had fifteen people make a donation that lead me to raise $300.00 for John's family!!! With the amazing help from these people I was able to pay $50.00 towards their next electric bill (the electric company said the next statement was Friday so perfect timing!), buy a $185.00 grocery gift card, get the basic school supplies for the twins going into second grade and purchase some goodies for the kids!
Tonight I went over to deliver the goodies for her. As we turned on her street my husband told me that the twins call their dad's phone every night to hear his voice. At that moment of course tears were coming! I had to sit in the driveway for a few minutes to compose my self before I walked into her house. Once we got in, there were quite a few people there so I didn't want to barge in on her company for to long. When I went to walk and get the huge bag of stuff to give her, the tears just started flowing. I told myself not to cry but of course couldn't help it given the situation!! Oh my heart just breaks for them. As I started showing her the kids goodies, she started to cry, the look on her face was indescribable as she was surprised. After I showed her all the kids goodies I told her that I had paid $50 towards her next electric bill and handed her the envelope with the grocery gift cards in it. I of course told her about the fifteen amazing people that helped me make this happen and she told me to tell each of you THANK YOU! Because of your generosity you impacted a life tonight that you didn't even know. A life that could have used a little smile tonight and you helped me deliver that smile! Here are the goodies I purchased along with the $50.00 towards her electric bill.

This is for the twelve year old-her mom said she loves B&BW!


This was for the seven year old twin boy


This was for the seven year old twin girl


I looked at the school supply list at the store and picked up the majority for her for the twins



Grocery gift cards





I want to send a HUGE thanks to everyone who prayed for this family! I know from my own personal struggle with my brothers death that nothing brought me out of my depression and sadness except prayers to God.Prayers area amazing and I thank you for thinking of this family! When I was purchasing all of these different items I had the greatest feeling inside of me. It felt so great to help this family. As we were shopping my little boy Logan kept saying, mommy can we get this present for the kids that lost their daddy. I was happy to have him be apart of this so he could learn compassion and caring. I was amazed that he didn't pick out one toy for himself but all for the kids. Each night we have added them to our prayers before bed. I want to send a HUGE thanks to those who could financially help:
Courtney Jozsa
Kristi Demeree
Cristina Smith
Joyanna Silverstein
Flo Ward
June Resler
Tiffany Todd
Jennifer Elwell
Chrissy Bengel
Eunice Henmen
Bryan Borsum
Ashley Hentges
Elyse Hurley
Jan Henderson and
Tara Burho

Friday, July 1, 2011

A life gone in a second...

This morning when I called my husband to chat he informed me that a guy he used to work with passed away in a horrible car crash yesterday afternoon. With out going into much detail I looked up the crash on local news sites. Little did I know it was this tragic and bad...
This photo is of his red ford truck smashed against the semi truck that hit him. I don't need to go into how bad it was because you can see in the picture just how bad it was. I met John once last Christmas Eve when he came over with another guy from my husbands work to ride dirt bikes and his four wheeler. He was a very nice guy. He had three children that I believe are ages 4 and twins that are 7. My heart just breaks for his family. As almost every blog post I write, I always talk about my brothers passing. I know the extreme pain, and heartache they are going through. My brother isn't replaceable, and neither is their dad. Three young kids that's now have to grow up with out their father. Why???!! Because a semi truck driver didn't realize he was stopping due to a traffic jam and going 65 mph slammed right into him. The truck driver was driving while impaired, had possession of methadone, possession of marijuana, and possession of drug paraphernalia. A state trooper at the scene said it was one of the worst accidents he has ever seen especially with so many cars involved. My husbands former co-worker was not the only one killed. He killed two others that were involved. These three kids thought their daddy was on his way home and didn't know they would never get to see him again. I just don't understand why people have to drink and drive and drive under the influence of drugs, let alone do drugs in general!
I have never met John's wife before, or his three children. Knowing the pain I have went through from my brothers death I can't help but have them on my mind ever since I found out. I thought loosing my brother was tuff. I thought going back to work was tuff. I thought breathing was unfair if he couldn't... Imagine how his wife feels who now carries the pain of loosing her husband and the father of her three kids who wont get to have their daddy anymore. Imagine explaining to your children that daddy isn't coming home, that he has gone home to Heaven. It doesn't matter if I have never met her or not, I feel in my heart I need to help her. I would like to set up a donation for his family. If every person who reads this, shares this, and they each donate $5, we can help this Mom that is now a Widow as much as possible. With a family used to two incomes, and raising three small children I want to help her as much as possible. With all the money I raise, I would like to buy her grocery gift cards, I would like to buy the kids something, and hopefully pay at least one of her major bills (electric or water) for a month. Even helping her this little, to her it will be BIG. After my brother passed away, we had people come in our home we hadn't seen in YEARS, DECADES! They brought us groceries, dinners that lasted forever, they cleaned..and we didn't ask for anything. When you go through this pain, and shock you don't think of any of those things. In fact, you could care less if you eat daily...Most of the time you don't want to eat! I ask that you please consider helping this family. I can promise you, that every single donation will be contributed to her. I always said that God will give me a purpose through my pain, helping others who loose a loved one. Any donation counts, large or small and it is ALL greatly appreciated. If you cant donate, I ask that you please pray for this family. For his children. Please pray that they will find peace in their heart.

TO make a donation you can donate via pay pal to email k_cole777@yahoo.com or send a check to Kristin Cole 1471 Remington Lane NW concord nc 28027. Either way you send it can you please note on their that it is for this cause. I will personally send you a thank you card with a receipt of all the bills, grocery gift cards that I have bought. Thank you in advance!